I need resolution to things. As a therapist, I had to learn to be okay when things are unfinished with a client at the end of a session. Inexperienced therapists often rush in too quickly to try to "fix" the problem, in part because they want things wrapped up with a nice pretty bow for (themselves and) the client when the session is over. But, that's really not what's helpful or needed by the client. I had to learn to be okay with leaving things open and unresolved with my clients, even though it felt uncomfortable for me initially. I had to trust the therapeutic process. And, I do now. I haven't felt that struggle in a long time.
But, outside of the therapy room is another story altogether. I like to have order and control, that's no secret to anybody who knows me. I need to have things resolved and taken care of...not left undone or unsaid. I can't move forward or act as if there's not a problem until that problem or issue has been addressed and satisfactorily resolved. It frustrates me beyond belief that K is able to fall asleep instantly at night while I'm often still "stewing" about a situation that I don't feel has been adequately resolved.
I need resolution. I just do.
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I've found that a glass of wine and an ambien does the trick for me. I don't do it every night ( I know what you were thinking :)). Seriously though, I completely understand. I like everything to be settled.
It'd be nice if the wine and sleeping pill combo was considered healthy. I was joking by the way. I never take an ambien with wine :)
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